![]() ![]() to get "free time" which means I exercise, or send emails, or write creatively (aka sleep on keyboard). So I came up with a few for those situations that crop up and challenge us, again and again. And it occurred to me that there are times when all of us need to have these kind of no-fail formulas, specific to our needs, fears and understanding of ourselves. It was the simple math of how to make myself happy. ![]() Nobody at Princeton was going to invite me on staff or invite me out to a desert to experiment with molecules. And I felt great, not just because I got what I wanted, but because I had an equation that would make me feel festive about this one loaded, inevitable day of the year-and I could simply repeat it the next year. Then I called my husband, who was able to purchase all this and arrive home by 7 p.m. But streamers and balloons feel like stuffing myself into frilly party dresses with patent shoes-at age 40. So: Gummy bears! You’re also supposed to have streamers and balloons. So: Sushi! You’re supposed to have a cake on your birthday, but I don’t like cake. But I did not want to cook, which is a skill that, sadly, my husband doesn’t possess. I did not have the energy to book a table at a happening restaurant where my kids would order french fries then knock over their ginger ales. I thought, "What would make me happy on my birthday?" It was 8 a.m in the morning. Two years ago, I decided I would try to learn from them. And yet, I have noticed that people who are birthday-party people seem to know how to celebrate-not just others-but themselves. Inviting people over for a big gathering in honor of me feels embarrassing. ![]()
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